Saturday, April 23, 2011

The Double Standard

Do I dare write about it? Do I venture into the cerebral territory where so many men have gone but failed? This particular subject is one that is highly debate-worthy and has troubled society for generations. That is the famous double standard: if a guy hooks up a lot he is "the man" and if a girl does it then she is "a slut." If myself and many other men do eventually find wives, our mental constructs and upbringings have conditioned us to seek a girl that has had a smaller number of sexual partners. However the general argument of the double standard should be viewed from multiple perspectives and philosophies which could prove that although most men would not want to marry promiscuous females, her sexual behavior may not warrant the use of the term "slut."A big part of why men are not condemned as much as females for being promiscuous is that a vagina is higher maintenance than a penis. Many comedians have spoken about how the female tunnel of love is known to be "pretty" and penises are not. In order for a woman to "get off" she needs all sorts of mechanisms, tongue rotations, speed and penetration levels, candle scents, etc...But for a man, a few simple strokes and he experiences 5 seconds of bliss. Men also have more testosterone in their system which increases the eagerness to fornicate while women are more able to practice self control. These points establish a general reason why women are expected to have sex less than men. She is carrying gold and he is carrying silver. However, as valuable as gold is it is still given away or exchanged on few and certain occasions. So women do have the right to give away their gold if the price or time is right without losing "self respect." If a woman meets a man and has sex with him the same night,  I have no doubt that many will consider her a hoe with no self respect. But what if within that short period of time that man had highly triggered her mental, emotional, and physical levels. This would be rare, but possible. The same way someone may convince me to give them a piece of my gold in one day; not likely but possible. Porn stars are a fine example of this system. They are considered sluts but technically they are selling their gold every day. You may not agree, but to them (and men who marry them) the money is more important than the commodity at hand. So although she is getting pounded on camera, technically she is being rewarded for the goods that she posesses. Going back to my introduction, the reason I want my wife to have a low number of sexual partners is not because of her level of self-respect but it serves as a gauge of determining her judgement level in general. Like how quickly she is to give away a precious product without good reason. I think the same rules should apply for men but substitute the word silver for every time I used the word gold. It is still a commodity we posses but it is less valuable and easier to give away. Also a man's testosterone will want him to experience that five seconds of bliss as often as he could. So I will not frown upon women who have one night stands or do "skanky" things as long their transaction was well judged.

150 comments:

  1. You are sooo right....I think you and I were meant to be.....

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  2. I hate the double standard. I hesitate even using the words 'slut' or 'whore' because they have such violent implications (and are used to justify sexual assualt, sexism, etc.) and I encourage everyone else to do the same! Anyway, I think the double standard exists largely due to the belief that men want sex more than women do, and traditionally (and still) female sex has been used as a commodity.

    In my opinion, men and women should be viewed exactly the same for their sexual behavior. If a woman has a one night stand with a guy she's very attracted to and she's happy with it, why not? In any case, an extremely high number of sexual partners for either men or women can be a turn off. I try to base my actions off Lauryn Hill "don't be a hard rock when you really are a gem". As long as you're happy and confident with what you do and value yourself it's all good! This comment is way too long lol

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  3. Well, that settles it. The only logical way to go around this is for every woman to lie about how many sexual partners they've had.
    Lawl.

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  4. Interesting topic, I've thought about it a lot myself. I think men and women are generally the same and have the same desires. But you're right that the world we live in does judge us differently. I liked the porn star reference too lol :)

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  5. AS much as i know all the girls are going to get on me i am going to have to agree....because although it is very tempting sometimes to want to be a little crazy and scandalous my judgement and up bringing prevents my brain from letting it happen. I don't really judge anyone else, to each his own But i personally couldn't just let anyone have me. The problem is girls these days think of themselves as gold when they really should be thinking of themselves as platinum. Whatever happen to making someone wait? If a woman doesn't value herself enough to make good decisions then how do they really expect a man respect them. I don't know it's a mystery to me too ..... Keep me posted if your ever enlightened lol :)

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  6. I'd like to thank you because many people use the 'double standard' even girls. Iam still young and i can clearly see people judge others by their promiscuity. I know when Iam older I wont want someone whose been with every body i dont think my future partner would appreciate me 'sleeping around' either. so iam very greatfull you dared to write about it
    Respectfully ,A 13 year old girl

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  7. well put vin, nice job appreciating both sides of the story

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  8. So true vin...I love the poem below also. You should write a book,you're very well spoken! Have fun in the Motherland!

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  9. i tend to agree with what vinny says.it really isnt fair.im not a feminist but it should be equal with both sexes.me, im 22 yrs old and still a virgin.im saving it for my future husband.thats just the way im going.

    p.s.im not some bible thumping church goer.

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  10. I like the way you put it and I agree.

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  11. What bugs me about your argument is that well....we have all watcched you fuck girls after meeting them earlier that evening for quite some time now. How can you say a girl has shitty judgement for getting with a dude right away when you engage in that same behavior constantly? I would say that I agree with you that fucking right away betrays bad judgement skills but that it applies equally to you and men in general as well. Also, do you have every single STD yet??

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  12. Vinny,

    If the point of this blog is to acknowledge the fact that there is a double standard, and that men and women are equal, then you're contradicting yourself.

    Firstly, you say that a vagina is more maintenance that a penis, and that women need more things to happen to get off, where as for men, "a few simple strokes" is all he needs. Every single person is different, and every single person has different needs, regardless of sex.

    Secondly, you say that because men have more testosterone that they have less sexual self control than women, and that because women don't have as much testosterone that they have less of a sexual drive. Now, I'm not a biology expert, but this statement is just plain false. Society has used the excuse that women should/do have more self control to put the responsibility on women and give men the free pass to do whatever the hell they want with no consequences, reinforcing the idea of the double standard. Each man and woman should have equal responsibility in self control.

    As for this gold and silver bullshit (and it is bullshit), I have no words.

    So speaking as a relatively informed young women of an age where there is a sexual double standard, I plan on judging my future husband's sexual encounters with just as much vigor and skepticism as a man would me.

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    1. Thank you!! You stated my thoughts perfectly. You are obviously very intelligent. :)

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  13. Another thing...why don't you value your sexual "product" as much as a woman would? You are putting yourself at risk, after all, of contracting various diseases or impregnating a silly hoe you don't respect who will come to find you if she gets knocked up. A woman has more to lose because she could become a mom but just cuz its easier for a dude to get off doesn't mean you're not gettng involved in a pretty complicated situation. Again, fucking right away is a bad idea for girls AND DUDES TOO

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  14. Since watching your show, I've determined that you're the most intelligent normal one of the whole house. This blog seals the deal that you ACTUALLY see how the world works and that you acknowledge issues in different situations.

    Nothing sexier than a man with a brain that works.

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  15. Sad to say it but your right. Girls just need to carry themselves a different way. Girls can play the same game the guys do, we just need to be quiet about it. Guys can and are allowed to talk about sleeping around and let's face it girls are looked at in a very different way if she's out there talking about all her hook ups. *from a girl that slept with a guy on the first night and now married for 10yrs and have 2 kids with.

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  16. Well put. I've never been one to judge a man on his sexual partners. Everyone likes to have fun. I on the other hand dont sleep with someone until im 100% comfortable with them. If the connection is there give it time it'll happen. when it comes to sexual partners I believe in dont ask, dont tell. I dont want to know and dont need to. Past is past, as long as hes doesn't expect me to be that easy, he likes me for me, and he's not still racking up his number while with me..I see you how you are now and I dont listen to other people either, they just try to bring yah down. =)

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  17. I have a question for you Vinny... so how many partners would you consider TOO many for a woman to have without taking "judgment" or lack thereof into consideration with each transaction? Are you saying that if a girl has slept with 20 guys, that as long as the "transactions" were well thought out then she wouldn't be considered a "skank" but it doesn't matter if guys use their judgment or not...? I agree with a lot of what you've stated except for the part where men have less control than women... sometimes women just want fun as well! It truly is a double-standard. I myself haven't slept with many men but if I wanted to, why should I be so accepting of a future husband with a long list of partners, if he wouldn't be accepting of mine (that is if I had a long list)? Nothing is ever clear cut, and I think that to say that as long as the woman used her judgment for each transaction that she won't be a skank, then that is a little close-minded, don't you think?

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  18. Vinny,
    not only does this blog make perfect since, but you are great with words!!!!! for instance people would not think that a jersey shore cast member has much to talk about then just tanning gym laundry and the opposite sex. You are deeper then appear on tv, which i assume is true for most of your castmates and friends. believe me when i say you have something here, I am sure there are more people out there with the same great ideas, thoughts, and controversy, but you have the opportunity for people to listen, take advantage of that and tell people what you think, a book would be ideal!! (dont change) your mind is gold to me :)

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  19. That's why ur my fav. U hv a good heart.

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  20. GO PHUCK YOURSELF and STOP TRYING SO DAMN HARD.

    http://ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com/58661076.html?view=10036407252#t10036407252

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  21. I do like you Vinny, which is irrelevant, because no matter what I say if you disagree I will be labeled a #hater.
    You have NO idea what you are writing...contradictions and some way of justifying your being a slut but not being ok with the person you marry doing the same thing you do.
    I truly think it is your culture.... The women takes care of the man, and the man does whatever he wants..... Hopefully you WILL meet a girl who buys into the BS. I hope you are just looking for someone pretty... I would like to hope any female with any intelligence would let you know how ridiculous your ideology is...
    I think you should just stick with the GTL life, enjoy your 15 minutes, and keep us entertained for another season.

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  22. It's much more simple than what all of you are saying. The double standard exists for one main reason. It is easier for girls to have more sexual partners than it is for men. Men who are considered "the man" for getting lots of women typically have to be good looking and have some sort of an interesting personality, among other things. While if a women goes out to a bar or club she knows that most males there will be looking to go home with some girl, simply by the nature of younger men today. I'm trying not to be too blunt with this, but it is simply easier for a girl to go out and get a guy than it is the other way around.

    Jim Jeffries explains my point in a much more crude manner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6UAtYlo7Io

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  23. So basically you're a sexist prick who doesn't know shit about vaginas or women? Got it.

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  24. Idiot. Just stop talking please!

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  25. I don't know whether to be angry at your ridiculous sexism or embarrassed for you because you know fuck all about women. Do yourself a favor and stop typing words. It's kind of amazing (read: alarming) that you are considered the smart one of the Jersey Shore cast.

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  26. I am seriously embarrassed for any woman on here who agrees with what you're saying--unless your intention was to show the double-standard by example, giving us a blog entry from the perspective of the sexist brain. In that case, well done.

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  27. Good thing you didn't become a lawyer. The only thing you've convinced me of is that you last about five seconds in bed and have no clue as to how to get a girl off. No scented candles are required, thank you.

    You say you want your wife to have a low number of partners and mention on the show that not all girls "deserve to get wifed up." Here's a pro-tip, Vinny - if you want to marry a girl with a pristine, golden vagina, maybe you should stop hooking up with every woman you meet on national television. Why would someone virginal want to be with YOU?

    The difference in perception of men and women who are promiscuous (or, as you would say, "conspicuous") is that a lot of men can't seem to categorize women as anything but a virgin or a whore. Men who get their panties in a bunch about how many people a woman sleeps with are simply insecure.

    P.S., try using paragraph breaks every now and then.

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  28. Holy. Shit. Your stupidity is actually blowing my mind. I can't believe that there are women (or men) who are actually agreeing with this shit.

    A. Women do not have more self-control than men. End. of. story. Testosterone does not, as you seem to think, control your levels of responsibility, judgement, or self-control.

    B. Not all women need several techniques (or candle scents, wtf you dumbass) to get off. Same as some men need a lots of care in certain areas to get off.

    C. WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT PORNSTAR ANALOGY HOLY SHIT WAS THAT SUPPOSED TO MAKE ANY SORT OF SENSE?

    D. Just stop trying to be smart, it's not working.

    Oh, last but not least, CONSPICUOUS =/= PROMISCUOUS. You are embarrassing.

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  29. VINNY, NOT ONLY ARE YOU FUCKING UGLY BUT ALSO A SEXIST PIG! STOP TRYING TO BE DEEP AND GET LOST. YOUR 15 MINS ARE ALMOST UP. (14:59)

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  30. you are clearly terrible in bed if you think it takes that much to get a girl off

    it's really not a feat

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  31. I don't get why people don't just call guys sluts. I certainly do.

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  32. CHILD YOU ARE SO IGNORANT.

    STEP AWAY FROM THE THESAURUS PLEASE.

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  33. Holy shit, shut up. You are so dumb, ignorant, and sexist.

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  34. You're a slut and any woman with self-respect or good judgment would stay clear of you.

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  35. If your going to trash talk vinny get off anonymous and say it. It means nothing if you don't man up and say who you are. These people are just jealous. Keep it up Vinny.

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  36. I think everybody needs to shut the fuck up an back the fuck off of vinny...for crying out loud its HIS OPINION...an HE IS INTITLED TO IT...cause if it bugs u that much then..u HAVE NO LIFE CLEARLY...AN CARE MORE BOUT WHAT HE WRITES AN DOES..FYI a opinion is neither fact or fiction....SO GROW UP AN GET A FUCKING LIFE...its all good vinny...I got u... :) ♥ an u keep doing u an FUCK EVERYBODY ELSE... ♥

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  37. WOW this post makes me view this debate in a whole different light. I always argued with my guy friends that the double standard is WACK, but you made some valid points. good looks Vinny :) twitter - @alexa_veronica

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  38. http://ohnotheydidnt.livejournal.com/58661076.html - read it and weep

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  39. Based on the comments and ingrained sexism in the concept of the double standard, you were right to second guess writing about it. You make some interesting points though and clearly you don't mean to be demeaning to women at all. Please look up conspicuous though, maybe you meant promiscuous?

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  40. I can't believe I read this garbage. How incredibly ignorant and sexist.

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  41. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hfYJsQAhl0&feature=player_embedded

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  42. Misogyny at its finest. And you think this actually makes you sound good? You cited vague comedians for the main point of your argument!

    I am so sad for all the fangirls on here rethinking "Well, men are supposed to have sex whenever they want and girls aren't". Girls- don't listen to this tool. You think it is ok for him to demand that his future wife has few partners to judge her judgment? What about his?

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  43. BAHAHAHAHA. I can't believe I just sacrificed 5 minutes of my time to read this...

    Vinny, you have lost all points... Fail.

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  44. Lauren - lollie424 twitterApril 25, 2011 at 9:58 AM

    First, I will address the misuse of the word "conspicuous". I believe the term you were looking for was PROMISCUOUS. You might want to do a little research before you throw around words in the wrong context.

    Next, the fact that you are writing a blog based on the double standard, yet, that you state that you will look for a wife who has a low number of sexual partners, is probably the most hypocritical statement I have ever read. Have you watched your own show? Do you see how you present yourself? You are currently probably one of the bigger manwhores of the house. Any respectable girl who watches the show can see that you, no doubt, have been around the block a time or two...hundred. Just as you will choose your "future wife" based on the number of sex partners she has had, I hope that she judges you in the same way. If that is the case, I wish you luck in finding a wife. Also, is the number of a woman's sexual partners truly a good factor in determining her level of judgment? I mean, clearly, her cultural background, educational background, life experiences are not good factors in determining a person's character. My friend, I think you should probably grow up and realize that the entire world is not based around SEX. By writing this blog, you sound like a teenage boy whose life revolves around vagina. Get real.

    Your porn star analogy makes no sense, but, leave it to you to try to use that as an example.

    I could go on and on contradicting the statements you have set forth in this blog, however, I'd rather not waste my time on someone so fake and close-minded. The fact that you are addressing the "double standard", but at the same time, exhibiting the double standard, blows my mind. Did you read this before you posted it? Did it honestly make sense to you?

    In conclusion, Vinny, your blog is full of contradictory statements, and you have portrayed yourself as a full-fledged hypocrite. You posted another blog on "being real" - Vinny, do you know how fake you come off to people?

    Side note: I find it hard to understand how you can be an anti-bullying advocate while you blatantly call people "grenades" and "hippos" on national television. To call a female a ugly or obese can be harmful to one's mental well-being, as is, in fact, BULLYING. Practice what you preach, bud.

    Lastly, congratulations on letting the world know, via this blog, that you are a 5 second man. Ladies - is he worth it? I doubt it. Get tested, dude.

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  45. damn mad haters. If you dont like vinnys words then dont read them. Chill bros.

    i think this is a good point and i know girls like to be all like men should care to but in reality girls get horny and shit happens just like boys. Difference-boys dont wake up regretting it cause they cant get pregnant.

    so lets be real people there is a double standard, we know it, get over it! As a female i think its sexy that you think we should be more careful cause we're worth more.

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  46. You sound so utterly ignorant in this. There is a such thing as spell check and before you use BIG words, look up their definition. You should also look up the definition of TOOL, you will find your name.

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  47. So many mixed reviews on this one. I agree it's nice to know some men think A "woman" not Vagina is worth more. However, MOST, if not all, women enjoy sex (the 5 seconds of bliss) as much as any man and crave it just like they do. NOW if "judgment" is what keeps us from acting upon this impulse than hasn't he made his point! WOW. EVERYONE knows the double standard is hypocritical....so why are you calling him a sexist. UMMMM most men are womanizers by nature. Is it right, no BUT it is what it is and has ALWAYS been. Someone stated this is VINNY'S opinion...and those are just like assholes and everyone has one of those too. IT'S A FREAKING BLOG not the New York Times!

    Thanks for the entertainment as always Vinny. R2theEL on twitter. Follow

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  48. seriously, gtfo. i should be able to sleep with as many men as i want, without judgement, because it's my body, and i can do what i want with it.

    please stop inflicting your puritan bs onto others, thanks.

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  49. is it a coincidence that the average american i.q. has gone down since jersey shore started??

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  50. This blog is a whack attack.

    Also, I hate this background.

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  51. This post was so interesting...thanks for making me think.

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  52. I am Brazilian, short read your blog, and .... I just love you so much! (laughs)♥ by:Beatriz

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  53. The double standard doesn't exist because men/society thinks women (and their genitalia) are worth MORE, the double standard exists because men/society thinks women (and their genitalia) are worth LESS.

    People berate you in these comments because our natural response to being offended is anger, and our natural reaction is to express that anger. People are angry because you have offended them personally. Don't let that dissuade you from evaluating the points people are trying to make; this is an opportunity for you to re-assess what you think is right and address why you think that. You would be doing yourself a favor if you opened your mind to what these angry people are trying to get you to understand.

    This blog post is not open-minded. It isn't fair, respectful or educated. It isn't clever. This blog post is sexist, plain and simple. Do you think of yourself as a sexist? You are - and that is evident from your behaviors on both your television show and what is expressed through your Twitter and Blogspot accounts.

    To clarify: just because you love your mother doesn't mean you aren't sexist. I reiterate: you are sexist.

    I urge you, again: consider these responses. Consider your behavior. Consider why people (women, especially) might be angry with you. Consider that you are a role model (whether you want to be or not) because of your celebrity, and consider that you are teaching a younger generation and your peers that it is acceptable to be sexist; that it is condoned. Consider that you are disrespecting not only women, not only strangers, but your mother, your sister, your cousin, your aunt, your niece. Consider that you are making a statement against them, even if it does not pertain to them specifically.

    Consider. And change.

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  54. This is the stupidest fucking post I've ever had the displeasure of reading. You're a moron who is so insecure that he needs to judge the sexuality of women in order to make himself feel better.

    No wonder you couldn't get into law school.

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  55. No one wants a slutty man, with a slong thats been dipped in many of skanks. A man with respect for his body is a good man. girls are dumb. No one wants a dirty man. yuck. I'd rather be a lesbian than be with a man thats slept with lots of girls. yuck! You want a good respectable girl than respect yourself. a respectable woman deserve a respectable man. Not a dirty man that needs to javex his wiener to wash off who knows whats been there. a respectable girl doesn't need to catch a std from some gross guy whos been around the block. WAKE UP LADIES!!. put these men in check!

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  56. No one wants a dirty girl who is the town bicycle either you twat! Certain girls deserve to be treated the way they are treated... A slut, in my opinion, should be treated like trash and given the bang and boot. Now a girl who actually has self respect and wont give it to you the first day you hang out should be treated with respect and be a gentleman towards her.

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  57. OMG if you don't like the blog, just stop reading it. Perhaps it's not the right opinion, but at least he has one. Have fun in Italy Vinny, Europe RULES! Go Belgium Go!!!

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  58. And an other thing, just let people live their lives like they want to, as long as they hurt nobody, there's no problem, right?

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  59. this is makes no sense. and you are factually wrong about at least half of your claims.

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  60. ^in regards to charlotte: yes he has the right to post his opinion (albeit a stupid one), but so does everyone else. if he didn't want people to protest what he said, then he shouldn't have posted it publicly.

    and he needs to know how misogynistic and hypocritical his opinion regarding women&sex is.

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  61. Vinny, you were the one guy in the Jersey house that I thought respected women more than the other guys in the house. You seemed nice and respectful of your mom and all. After reading this however, it made me realize that you are nothing special (far from special), just one of the ordinary guys who has succumbed to the unfair justification that has been ingrained in our culture by narrow-minded fuckers in the past and unfortunately, the present. It's a shame, really, how people in this modern world can be so ancient.

    Firstly, don't you know about multiple orgasms in women? (Surely you don't as you probably never pleased a woman enough for her to reach such heights!) That means that I, a woman, can cum many times during penetration so the penis is pretty gold for a lot of us women, too. And don't bring testosterone into this argument, as many women are just as horny as men are but because of douche bags like you, women live their sex life in secret in fear of being judged. Moreover, you basically made a point to us all that you de-value your body, your gender and yourself as you believe that WOMEN ARE GOLD and you are just silver. Thanks, haha!

    Finally, any woman who ever decides to marry you albeit knowing your stance on this matter is a fool.

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  62. Sup! Vin speaking the truth. Making plenty of sense to me bro.


    This is how you keep it real, you think it, type it, post it. No fucking about! Truth right there, it will set you free...

    NK.

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  63. I think a lot of it has more to do with biological predispositions and evolutionary programming. We can create social stigmas and cultural associations all we want, but truly - it's beyond that.

    Everything we do, whether we realize it or not, is based on a primitive urge to procreate. Everything you find physically attractive about a woman, you find attractive because on a level that speaks to your primitive brain, that trait signifies to you that she would be a successful mate and provide quality progeny. Hips, thighs, breasts, asses - all signify femininity and likelihood of fertility. Even the bigger waist to hip ratio that men find attractive signifies femininity. Even a prettier face - a more symmetrical face is a sign of less genetic defect, so you find them more attractive. You are biologically geared toward wanting to make genetically superior children.

    Physiologically speaking, everything a man needs to know about a woman, he can tell physically. It's the reason women are more physically attractive when they ovulate, their voices are higher, they smell different, their skin is clearer - everything about their bodies changes to render men more likely to want to fornicate, thereby increasing the chances of reproducing.

    Men are programmed to want to spread their seed, because the more women they have sex with, the more likely they are to procreate.

    Women, who have greater consequences for sex than men, are programmed to seek one quality mate who will be an adequate provider and protector for their progeny.

    It's all biological, toward the same purpose: procreation. At the core of everything, we're animals.

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  64. You somehow topped your own stupidity and ignorance, which is somewhat of a feat. That is pretty much all you accomplished with the post though.

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  65. I appreciate what you wrote, especially the subject that you wrote about but I have to agree with the people that have a different opinion

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  66. I would just have to say that this post made me think totally different about you. I agree with all the other people who have the different opinion. I will not tolerate my future husband having a high number. Any self respecting woman would want a man who can respect himself and have self control.

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  67. What is considered a worthy transaction????

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  68. seriously everyone? if you don't like the shit, don't fucking read it. get off the page. he is intitled to his opinion. and get off his nuts about him using ONE word in a huge ass paragraph. nobody is perfect. if we were going on spelling or using words wrong, a bunch of you would be fucked. oh and p.s. there is a double standard. there always has been. so get over it.
    vinny, i think you're adorable and sexy. and i like the fact that you don't care what people think of your opinion and you speak your mind. i love reading your little blogs you post. i still think you're smart. and i know you respect us women. :) so keep doing your thing and fuck the haters. much love. <3

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  69. i don't get comments like the one above. EVERYONE ELSE is entitled to their opinion too, and if he's going to make a blog post about a subject like this, then everyone is entitled to say what they think. i can respect the fact that he can have an opinion, but i don't have to respect the opinion.

    and one person made a small comment about him using a word wrong, so don't exaggerate.

    and please stop thinking with your vagina.

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  70. Vinny, I adore you. Plain and simple.

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  71. Oh dear - who provided the sexist Neanderthal with a thesaurus?

    Stick to downing shots and wearing truly atrocious 'leisure wear'.

    Jx

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  72. ok ladies cut it out ya all hoes and sluts only reason is because you girls feel some sort of way to it which means you have guilty conceinse which means you do a slut move all the time.Only a hoochie would feel some way when she hears a violent word like that"slut" word. And yes i agree intercourse may be good but im way better.and no i will not give my goos to u even if u look that good or some hero celebrity you have to earn it with your love and care and respect you have to earn it my way the italian way and u should know urself.sorry but a dudes words will never get him just anywhere or better yet somewhere,.ok i ramble on too much i know but u know what o well u have nothing better to do anyways so listen to me =) sincerly Jennier Guadagnino

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  73. Honestly Vinny, if you're going to write a pro-feminist blog, maybe you should reconsider the page background. Not very pro-feminist.

    On another note, thanks for being a stand-up guy. Had to give you a hard time for something.

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  74. Wow many haters... that is also life. Those times i go out to dance im just out for the fun time, listening to the music and let the music come to me and then feel the wibe from the space in my legs and arms and heart, not for the fucktime i can get, i know i can get alot but i think of my "Princess" as a personal thing and it is not for everyone, i need some feelings to get down with a man. it is a feeling i can not describe, it just comes and when it does its real, its a lovemaking thing. hugs and kisses Jasmina

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  75. ..I am a sexy girl who met this sexy guy, and we talked for a while online before meeting...we really connected on a mental level which was very random...the first time we met it was instant attraction

    But because it was the first night and Im not the type to sleep around, bc I prefer to be with one guy, I didn't fuck him like most girls would have

    I know I am wife material just bc Im very picky about partners..and I value myself and guy I date as more then just 'a fuck' i like to be a complete whore freak to just one guy Im with...

    Anyways, because of the distance between me and this guy it was hard to get to spend time with him...and I wasnt willing to just fuck him when he is a flight away...

    The second time I saw him it crossed my mind at one point in the night...it not a mater of how many times or dates you chill...but it didnt feel lik the right time to do so even though we were teasing eachother

    Yes you say if the girl feels all feelings she should go for it....BUT the one thing that ws stopping me was tha fact that i knew he fucked alot of girls....and even though i did feel like i was different from the rest, i sill was 100 percent sure i could deal with knowing that he fucked so man girls...for health purposes...someimes i hink when ppl stop and think with their heads vs their cocks and pussys we can knock some sense into ourselves

    Its funny bc he told me he wanted to wife me bc i can count the number of guys i slept with on my right hand....but at the sme time just expected me to drop the fact that he had slept around...

    then when i wouldnt have sex with him he got offended and called me a cock tease...when i did like him and was into it..and in the moment...but my head kept over powering my pussy..that hes a slut

    He was quick to judge but never looked a himself

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  76. sry for english on blog its not best

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  77. wow to the last comment

    I guess someone who has value will end up with someone who has value

    It sounds contradicting that this guy would sit here and wish for a wife with min partners, yet it was ok for him to have slept around

    obviously people cant change the past but if a girl or guy feels sort of pressured then I can see how it would be a dilemma

    My question is this: Girls that sleep around are known as SLUTS. Girls that DONT sleep around are COCK-TEASES

    cant win can we

    p.s Guys that want a wife to appreciate but get upset bc she wont sleep with them after the second time is insecure and pathetic. And dont deserve that person

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  78. To the last comment of the sexy girl lol

    This is a huge sign of insecurity. If h had just waited longer and you guys made it offical im sure it could have been a happy ending

    what a tool

    Bc there needs to be more people like you in this world miss . Lady in the streets freak in the sheets hahah

    I say FUK HIM

    p.s vinny your blog is aiight but contradicting

    How u gonna find a wife if you bang so many bitches..you like so young too

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  79. The double standard between men and women won't change. Yeah it's unfair for women but why do most people care about being labeled? Personally I think people should take the whole 'You do you and imma do me' view and dont care what other people think..Thats just my opinion.
    Peace and love x

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  80. This has classic Madonna-whore complex (Google it, I know you won't know it otherwise) written all over that. Way to continue the stereotype of the Italian-American mama's boy who treats women with such disrespect though claiming his mother is a "saint." Plain and simple you don't respect women.

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  81. Haha...so BASICALLY you're saying what women have been saying since the dawn of time: Men are pigs.

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  82. So when are you going to post something from Italy? I'm interested to hear what your observations of the locals are...

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  83. Love from sweden. Du är så jävla fin. Teencrush.

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  84. I see people on here have written that what Vinny wrote was sexist. If you read what he has written closely, you can actually take from it that he has thought a lot about the type of women he wants to spend his forever with. That is something very personal. Forever is a long time and no doubt this individual with be the mumma to his children. And that he personally does not want a women who has slept around a lot and by that he means a girl who sees herself as someone who is special and knows this and refuses to just sleep with a man just because she wants sex and to get it in even if there is not connection between them, just plain physical sex. And that isn't being sexist because a girl can say the same thing. She doesn't want some player who goes around banging every girl who tickles his fancy because if he hasn't shown some self control throughout his single life what will being married do to change that, if he has just being going around banging whoever he wants whenever, coz he can, it is really hard to change that pattern or to not regress back to those ways when life gets challenging. I personally don't want a guy who is known to sleep around because a relationship and love can't change someone's personality. I'm doing a psychology degree and it is proven it does not work. There are scientific papers written on these kind of subject manners.
    Everyone expresses themselves in different ways and by using different kinds of language. It depends where they were brought up and what type of language was used in that area. So look beyond the language that is used and take away the message he is trying to convey. A girl who knows her worth and ain't going to settle for any or every man that throws himself at her and wanting to bang. Yes there are always exceptions. My mum married my dad and he was only supposed to be a one night stand. You just don't know. And I don't think it is right to come on here and read someone's words which come from their heart and apply your own meaning onto them. I may have also have taken the wrong meaning from what he is trying to write on here. But it seems he wants women to have self respect because in my opinion every girl should regard herself as gold because we are beautiful creatures with so much to offer in so many aspects of life.

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  85. I find it annoying how the women who agree with this idiocy are PROBABLY the type of women Vinny is expressing who don't treat their "gold" with respect. Because, these women have no self-respect when agreeing to this shit, simply because they're Vinny fangirls. Disgusting.

    This is the same type of thinking that has suppressed women for years. There were men (and women, probably, unfortunately) who thought women shouldn't vote or have a voice, as there still are. They would use anything to justify their reasons why women shouldn't have voices. Like, women just don't have the brain capacity to successfully pick a rightful candidate for president, etc. We proved that wrong.

    Women are SUCCESSFUL doctors, lawyers, mothers, teachers, etc. This is FACT. Sadly, Vinny, this blog entry is just opinion.

    Do you believe in Islam? Because they believe that men cannot control their sexual aggression towards women, therefore, they use their natural overbearing male-force to control what they cannot. Their thinking is that they cannot control themselves, so let's control the women. Wow, what a solution.

    There are women who believe in this too, and that is fine, as long as it is their CHOICE. But many of them don't have the choice. They think they are keeping everyone happy and being respectful, but they're CONTROLLING women and many of them have expressed that they are unhappy. Do you want to wear a black robe and veil all day everyday? I don't.

    That is the beauty about choice and freewill. I don't have to do that and no one should tell me otherwise. Just like I can fuck every guy I want and your opinion doesn't mean shit to me because this is my body. Yes, it's slutty. But so are you.

    You come from a world of idiots who all think like idiots. No good woman will date you either. You are slutty, you think idiotically, and you talk shit about people without trying to understand their situation. You only defend guys, even when the guy is wrong. Vinny, you are a T.V. slut who is trying to portray real morals, when you have none. Where I come from, the land of non-T.V. slutterism, you are the epitome of fake and hypocritical.

    Whether you admit it or not, or even acknowledge it or not, you look down on women. Men are first, women are second. You want a good woman for YOU, but apparently, you don't realize you're not a good MAN for a good woman.

    I understand you are not ready for marriage, which is fine. Be the slut you are, I don't care. But don't be a fucking hypocrite spouting off how Snooki or whoever is being a slut. Your dick will probably fall off before you reach 30.

    I suppose I could see the point in that you think highly of women, so when you see a woman with multiple sex partners, you're shocked that one can stoop so low. But, I could say the same to you. Just because you're a man doesn't mean you get a Free Get Out of Jail card. Only low men, like yourself, who I would never date nor associate with think in this manner. And the women who agree are exactly the same as you. Low, desperate, and unfortunately, brainwashed by a man's high status and power. That's the only type of woman you will ever find, Vinny. Because any woman with morals and standards, like you claim to like, will not date you. Unless, you change into less of a slut. Because that is exactly what you are. A slut. Attention slut, man slut, slut slut slut. Get used to it. I hope it sinks in. Whether or not the shit T.V. show you are on is real, Snooki was always and will always be better than you.

    I am 22-years-old. I've never had sex and have a building hatred that's growing rapidly towards men. You are always taking control over women just because you are bigger and you have a fucking dick. More violence, more rape, more labels for a woman who you can't stand to be better than you.

    Hollywood doesn't have morals.

    I hope you read this and change for the better. I'm on my fucking period.

    I hate you.

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  86. Hi Vinny,
    Just came here to say that i like u so bad.
    It's just amazing the way u are.
    Hope to u the best.
    <3 LY
    XoXo from Portugal!

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  87. You do realize using the word "transaction" in relation to sex makes it sound like these women are prostitutes, right? I mean, I get what you're trying to say, but that word really degrades the act of sex. Also, I don't know about other people, but I find a man who has many sex partners equally as disgusting as a woman who has had many sex partners. Who knows how many STDs and STIs the person has contracted that they could potentially transfer to their next sex partner.

    It's really up to individuals to determine how much effort they want to put into conserving their "gold" or "silver." It's possible to conserve, it just requires conscious effort.

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  88. <3 you vinny!!! <3

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  89. i think that its so much harder for a guy to get laid... like they need to put in so much effort... so when they see girls just fucking anyone they want, they get jealous and calls her a whore/slut

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  90. Wow, this is surprisingly lucid and thought-provoking. I stumbled upon this blog accidently and am truly impressed – molto bene!

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  91. Well. I never liked you anyway lol

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  92. Very deep thoughts Vin, but gotta go with gut and gut says history is right..

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  93. Vinny,

    I came across your blog while researching topic ideas for an argumentative paper for my University. In my own personal opinion I believe that you have the potential to be a good writer. You presented your position on what you defined as a double-standard by expressing your opinion on the subject matter and allowed room for a counterargument. Your writing is not bland but engages the reader in desiring to continue on reading. For those that personally attacked his blog you are blissfully unaware of what a logical argument consists of. Ignorance is one reason people cannot hold discussions without one or the other storming off. The purpose in presenting your idea and beliefs is being able to discuss them and for the other individual to grow a better understanding and respect of another person’s opinion. This does not mean you have to agree. When you personally attack Vinny you’re not challenging his belief but instead deflecting from the topic.

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  94. These ladies are right Vinnie. Even you, yourself, admitted you wouldn't want a girl who was promiscuous, so why would they? It may be difficult to grasp, but you need to stop thinking from your own viewpoint and consider the consequences of your own actions. From the tone of this post, it seems you're just trying to rationalize all of your own promiscuity. You're wrong. Ladies should be treated just as equally as men are, and don't give me that gold and silver BS. As a male and fellow human, it offends me that you would classify our gender's sexual parts as being inferior in value to that of a woman. Both gender's parts are equally precious, and it's quite a shame that the media and celebrities, such as yourself, have corrupted that view point. I still respect you for giving your opinion, however, but it is a wrong one man. You're still young and have a good head on you, you should leave all that JS BS behind before it's too late. You still have time to change and make something of yourself in the real world. Remember that.

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  95. Wow, your blogs remind me of some of the Tucker Max blogs. Insightful and clever, keep them coming!

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  96. This is about you trying to justify your bad behavior - to yourself. Your attempts at keeping up with Mike and Pauly are wearing you down spiritually.

    Do you really want to be recognized as some guy who penetrated ALOT of his fellow humans? Yawn. So what?!

    Perhaps you should have faith in your intelligence to carry you through this life and make a difference in the world as a THINKING man. A noble participant in the history of the world.

    And please stay away from any females under 18.

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  97. You haven't blogged lately. I love reading your thoughts. Meet me at the alter...

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  98. I dig what you wrote. It was brilliantly said <---That said, lol, and after looking at some of these comments. Wow. Some people just didn't get what you were trying to say, huh? I understand the "double standard" all too well. Not only am I female, but I happen to be Italian - American. Which essentially means nothing when you're out and about, partying and chillin' with friends. However, my parents and brothers--hell, just my family--would not appreciate me giving my "gold" away for nothing--a night of flirting and impaired judgment due to alcohol, whatever the fuck...

    Meanwhile, my brothers can do whatever it is they want and get a slap on their backs for being a pimp.

    Now, my background and gender has nothing to do with personal morals. Although, I can count on one hand how many I have been "intimate" with, I've...*cough* given the "gold" away before.

    I'm not a veteran at that, but both times, it just was NOT worth it the next morning.

    So, the next time my friends get on me for not "loosening up", I can say, "Would you give platinum away for nothing?" Great analogy!

    - Lexi D

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  99. Yeah buddy!!!! que p2 broth saludos si es que alguna vez lees esto que lo dudo, pero ps la intencion era buena, arriba chiapas xD

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  100. Being a woman my simple answer to this would be: it is my gold so I'll give it away any time I want. The double standard is a fact in our society and it will never change because it is something embebed in our culture no matter how much we change. There is a difference between a woman who sleeps around and a woman who does not respect herself. I can tell you from my experience that women who do not want to be in a relationship for whatever reason but still need to satisfy their own personal needs can be ladies. It is a matter of how you handle it: how you act before you get what you want, the reasoning behind you doing what you're doing and the how you act after you actually spend the night with someone. And believe me, having more testosterone does not mean

    The more interesting aspect I think, would be to try to understand why women have started to sleep around a lot more frequently than they used to. Tell me whatever you want, but the fact is it isn't something our society accepts willingly. Women are now discovering the power of sex and how they can use it which means that sex is loosing its importance - again, I speak for personal experience. It is a bit as we are trying to punish men for all the harm and pain they caused women for generations. Is this right? Is this fair or smart? Probably not.. but then again, it is pretty much up to a woman how she decides to handle her body.

    Usually, the ones that don't respect themselves are the ones who do it for the wrong reasons: to impress somebody, to punish an ex-boyfriend, to show that they can. If you decide to do it, do it because you are comfortable with it, deal with the consequences but stay true to your values and morals.

    xoxo

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  101. I agree that there's a double standard, but how long can you really hold out for a person who 1.) gives you silver for gold and 2.) makes more than one trade even during marriage? For as much as we claim that women can do as they please, we women are still deemed unfit to marry if our sexual background check comes up dirtier, if not considerably less, than our partners. So I say LADIES if you find someone who truly loves you they will not allow your PAST to affect/determine your FUTURE. Stay positive&&have fun :) Ultimately, it is your choice and people will forever judge others happiness.

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  102. Nice one Ana. ^

    Totally agree.

    Love is not about judgement.

    Who knows, Vinny might fall madly in love with a porn star...

    The heart wants what it wants... and that is a beautiful thing. x

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  103. Mr, Vinny

    I watch you on TV I am a Mother and have a 24 year old daughter I raised her that the Gold as you say is hers to give to the one she disires, it is the one thing that God gave her that she had the decision what to do with THank God she has only had 1 partner and that was a 3 year realtionship Yes we are a open family I rather know. I think you are right it is a double standard, So the question is why?

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  104. There will always be double standards and let's be real because we all know that living in a world without prejudice and or classifications is without questions. I do it, you do and I'm pretty sure that any Tom, Dick or Harry out there is passing judgment each and every time they encounter some sort of interaction with another person.

    Just like in Up in the Air with George Clooney,"Never get behind old people. Their bodies are littered with hidden metal and they never seem to appreciate how little time they have left. Bingo, Asians. They pack light, travel efficiently, and they have a thing for slip on shoes...I stereotype. It's faster."

    So, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I love the attempt made to make this writing piece sound philosophical in some way but it just didn't cut it. To the actual writer: You seriously would judge your life partner on how many sexual partners they had in their life? If so, why don't you throw away all the other aspects about having a meaningful relationship with another person based on who they really are as a person. I'm certain that falling in love with someone is not contingent if they only screwed 6 people in comparison to 10 people their whole life.

    To make yourself stand from the rest, why don't you write something that actually means SOMETHING...Like something about the economy or history - make yourself stand out instead of being kept labeled as this airbrushed, bimbo guy on a reality show. An intriguing person is not only about looks. After all, you can't have a convo with just a pretty face, a penis or a vagina - show some depth.

    I'm pretty sure you're not just this guy on a reality show who just thinks about sex, clothes, dj's, working out and fetching girls.

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  105. Men have gained dominance in our world by cleverly using
    judgement against women - to divide, and therefore conquer them.
    It all comes down to control.

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  106. I follow what youre saying, Vin. It's extremely hard for a girl to judge the right time to give it up, how many times, to who, etc. As a matter of fact YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HARD IT IS. (lol)

    BUT if a girl's judgement is really what you value...what you really should look for is a girl that can justify her actions and is confident and assured about the choices that she has made.


    If what you truly value is a "low count"...youre girl better be phenomenal and pretty forgiving (sorry but true, lol). They do exist.

    Just for some perspective...I can tell you, that a girl can only take so much of watching men (yes, that includes you, vin) pass her up for someone easier. Girls do notice. 1) it makes her think less of your values and 2) she may think that you would never be interested in a more conservative girl

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  107. Your silver is no less valuable than her gold. The next time you decide to have sex with a girl, think about how you are equals. Remember that she is not a toy, and she needs to be treated like a treasure.

    all seriousness aside, i think you have a gift with words. consider a novel or autobiography. i know i would read it :)

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  108. Vinny, I'm doing a nude photo essay on men from reality tv.
    Pose for me.
    No payment but I will touch you inappropriately in all the right places to "direct" you for the shoot.
    Call me on 555...

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  109. ^^ LMFAO!

    Yo we girlies got golddd. i like that! biggups V-starr

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  110. I think you have a pretty good point. Its a shame that there is a double standard especially with the way the world is now but even being a girl and having my fair share amount of people on my "list" it worries me that maybe its too high. The problem isnt with how many people I have been with its more the fact that boys tend to respect you less and less the higher your number is and thats the unfair part. I am young and can have just as much fun as you can. When it comes time for me to settle down my past will be my past and thats the end. Once that day comes the only person on my list that will matter will be my husband because he will be the one that I spend the rest of my nights with and hopefully we will be able to look back together and laugh at our childish days when we "played the field" and be glad that we managed to find eachother in all the chaos. Now as for all you people bashing Vinny on the things he has to say how dumb do you look because you came here wanting to read what he had to say.. you obviously came searching for this. If you dont like him or the things he says DO NOT READ IT. How simple is that. Its so easy for people to point their fingers and talk shit about people they do not know. Id like to see how some of you would act on tv or if you had a blog... Im about 100% positive that most of you would make a total ass of yourself. He is just being himself and who are you to judge where he ranks in the world. Vinny---if you read this---I got your back buddy! ha.

    and p.s.... sexist pig? really people? the burning of the bra era is over.... stop being a stupid feminist.

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  111. Oh Vinny.
    You're just throwing salt in old wounds.
    I see where you're coming from but I understand the counter-argument. Because really, we'll never all see eye to eye on this. Because everyone feels differently about the price of, as you say, this 'commodity'. But thanks for your opinio. Fair play for daring.

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  112. Dude, you know that picture is meant to represent the beauty and power of female relationships. It's not for creepy straight guys like you to get off to.

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  113. There's a guy that works at a local jewellery store who looks just like you, Vinny. I have a crush on him. We've been flirting for a long time so one day, as I was leaning over a glass cabinet, admiring some beautiful rosary beads - I asked him what he would do if he saw me wearing them against only my bare skin and he said...

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  114. What the FUCK did I just read?

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  115. Just don't be dumb enough to tell your future wife how much you slutted around b4 you met her. Many a men have been axed off the list by this fatal misstep.
    On another note, read up on some scientific studies. Men lie and usually double the amount of partners they slept with. While women lie by cutting their number in half. So, on average, men and women have the same number of partners. Both just lie in opposite directions. (Verified by lie detector tests.) Sorry to burst that bubble... :P

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  116. I believe Men and Women equally carry what you refer to as Gold. I don't think y'all are silver and we are Gold. We are equal, therefore you too as Men should make wise choices. I think you should follow your heart by enrolling into College and completing your education. Knowledge is power. Stay sweet!

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  117. Interesting blog you have here. You are trying to make excuses for why it's ok to judge women for sleeping with multiple partners, whereas guys can do it because, well, guys just can't control themselves. Then again, you're saying if a girl only sleeps with guys using proper judgement, that's ok. As long as it's not the same type of thing you guys do where you go out looking for girls DTF that you just met, have sex with them, and then kick them out. Granted, of all the JS male cast members, you seem to respect women the most -- which has always had me respecting you more that the rest of the cast. I know that's the role MTV wants you to play (and maybe it's the editing) but your logic here proves that you're trying to think about this the right way, you just have deep cultural roots that still tell you a girl is a whore if she sleeps around the same way that guys do. It IS a double standard... even calling a vagina gold vs a penis silver is messed up. I hope you want your dick to be treated like gold, not some second class silver.

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  118. Personally, I loved reading this. I am not a girl who you would find DTF in the club and I lost my vCard to my first love at the age of 18. However, fresh off that relationship of 6 years I recently had a date with a respectable guy I knew for over 10 years and I blew all morals to the wind. It was nothing I regret & I will definitely remember as a great experience. Vinny, you make valid points for this blog post & it is well stated. Woman don't have to be 'sluts' if they want to satisfy their needs just as much as a man, but us woman are alot smarter then guys so with that said, our clear judgement should more then not lead us down the less disappointed road of 'on to the next'...Vinny keep doing your thing!

    @crystaLyt

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  119. Ideally the woman had say in whether or not her "gold" was "traded". Just like a punk jacks a car stereo, your "gold" is also at risk of getting jacked. That negative attention doesn't compensate a lack in self esteem.

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  120. I think that a lot of young men start out with beliefs like these. I'm in my 40's and I believe most men don't really care about a woman's number of sexual partners, especially as they become more experienced in relationships.
    My husband has never asked me what my number is.

    Nice to see you blogging, Vinny!

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  121. A lock that opens with many keys- is a pretty poor lock,
    a key that opens many doors, is a master key.

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  122. This is interesting. I have had more than double the amount of partners my husband has had, but you must take into account the amount of long term relationships that the individuals have been in prior to you getting together. He had been with one girl for 6 years. He also had a couple other longer term relationships. I had 3 one year relationships and a whole lot of dating around time. This shows for the difference in number of partners. And I don't think the fact that I've been with more bothers him at all. He never thought of me as a slut. Heck, he married me over 4 years ago!

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  123. Vin-naaay! Just found your blog because you tweeted a link to it and I'm enjoying it so far. I love watching you and PaulyD on Thursdays :)

    I've never thought about it that way. Women have gold and men have silver. Saying that women have something precious is true but saying that men have something that's of lesser value is still an opinion. I don't see why men shouldn't value their "gold" as much as women should. I know it's not easy but it's possible. I'm a Christian and I believe it God's eyes he gave men AND women something precious. So when I watch Jersey Shore and see the Situation (Mike) hook up with a grenade and Deena hook up with a sleazebag, it all looks the same to me. But that's just my opinion...

    Love ya, Vin! Keep writing!

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  124. People should be in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship for at least 6 months before they have sex. Women and men should not just sleep with anything with a pulse because of the urge. I don't hold no double standards. Guys that have one night stands are sluts just like the woman that do the same are. I would say all the main cast members of Jersey shore are Sluts except Sammi and Jenni. Those two gals have been faithful to their boyfriends and can actually maintain a romantic relationship.In addition, those two don't sleep with random guys night after night. Good job on the 3.9 GPA in political science. My major was Accounting, and my GPA was 3.7. Although, my major was much harder than your political science major.

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  125. I think this is a fun post. It's a different way of thinking and I like it. However if you follow this logic, who are all the guys having sex with if the girls aren't racking up the numbers??

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  126. vin you are truly an awesome guy. I think you need a dark-haired, green-eyed southern belle to show u some things. Not intended to be creepy but I feel like I know your soul & have never met you. There's a serious plan for your life so keep it moving & DO YOU!! Remember baby boy.....haters make you famous. Holla back - dlstowe@hotmail.com

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  127. HEY KIDS! It's not hard to get a 3.9 GPA, all you have to do is take basket-weaving 101 like Vinny did. Then you can forever justify your ignorance because you got a "3.9" in college :)

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  128. following your premise, sex is only of value when you get something in exchange. however, you must understand that sex operates under the principle of reciprocity or give and take. It's not like when a woman haves sex with a man, she doesn't get anything in return. So why should we gauge a woman's judgement based on something she might also enjoy?

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  129. can you talk about why guys hit it and quit it in the next post you do about stuff like this? i just would like to get a sense of it. even if its a really good experience. i know that ive hooked up with some guys and its been great but i just dont want to do it again. is it just as simple as that?

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  130. You've definitely got the right idea. We are biological creatures, and no matter how 'special' we think we are because of our higher level of consciousness relative to other creatures, we are still operated by instincts ingrained into our brains via evolutionary history/natural selection.

    With that...
    Your idea about gold and silver is a relatively good analogy.

    Before birth control, women had to choose their sexual partners wisely. Women, ARE higher maintenance than men, in a completely biological/reproductive sense.

    Women are only born with 1-2 million eggs, but they are naturally lost through atresia, which slowly destroys them. By puberty At puberty, only around 400,000 eggs remain. Through puberty all the way to menopause, 1000 eggs are lost each month. Regardless of that, we get one egg a month. Compare that to males, where each ejaculation can release as much as 200-500Million sperm.

    That's not gold and silver. That's gold and sand.

    Females are evolved to be conservative of their reproductive assets - aka EGGS. Not only that, a female must invest 9 months into her offspring. Thus, their evolutionary history dictates that in order to be most successful, they must choose a suitable, healthy mate and one who will help her create and raise her offspring.

    MEN, in order to be successful, must 'spread his seed' so that he may increase the frequency of his offspring. This is the most advantageous evolutionary adaptation for him to become most dominant on the earth, genetically speaking.

    So, the double standard, is a gender specific adaptation.

    The problem is, that it doesn't really apply today because of birth control. But, our brains are still wired for the past. Those who do not conform to this double standard are seen as abnormal because its in our chemistry.

    Females do not like manwhores because they do not represent a suitable mate.
    The end.

    For more info read this book: Who's afraid of Charles Darwin?: debating feminism and evolutionary theory
    By Griet Vandermassen

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  131. Love it! Very well said! Thank you 4 not judging the number lol!I wish some men were so open to this subject but with a world ran by men us women slightly sit with there mouths shut. it's like sum say if she tells u 1 times that by 3 ;that's her "number" lol i can so relate to that n only bc i dont want to be judged!

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  132. Slut is just a word for a woman with the morals of a man.

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  133. well said...i prefer to read your blog then watch the show no pun intended...

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  134. Since traveling around the world and meeting people from many walks of life, I realize there are very few people that get "it." After reading that post, I really appreciate your heartfelt, well-rounded writing, Vinny. Seems like you get more than most people, which, unfortunately, is hard to come by these days. Glad to see there are sensible men (as least one) that realize fun and partying doesn't always mean meaningless sex. It's absolutely not my business, but I'm wondering if you have applied this moral to your life "fa real" as a "reality star." It's not as hard as people think; It just means way more. But you know that already, duh.

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  135. I honestly love that you can go from speaking in technical terms to "being pounded on camera" haha. You write really good. I enjoy your writing and you should keep it up. fuck, maybe one day you'll be published :P (I'd buy your book haha)

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  136. I havent read your blogs in a while mostly b/c I wrote off FB for a good number of months. I think after a while it can kill ppl's thoughts, but I am getting off track. 1st., if your aniexty issues on the show isnt bullshit, I commend you. My friends and I had a talk about the fact that why on earth would u possibly have those type of issues. My point is, even if ur life has changed, a normal person would eventually be @ a point where living in a fish bowl, is gonna make u wanna bang your head againt the tank eventually. No matter how much money you get paid.
    So if its not bullshit, you are the "normal" one. Change, no matter good or bad, is still change. For some people, who so desperatly want to try and hold onto some form of "self", this freaks them out. Good for you.
    Now in regards to your words above. Thats cute, but I have a question? How are you going to find that wife? I asked my husband the other night while watching your show, how can these ppl have sex, knowing the cameras are in the room? I mean, really you all have gone from reality stars to porn stars. Dont you think the editing ppl have at least once wacked off to watching you ppl doing it. Just like you probably have watching the Pam & Tommy videos. I dont mention the girls (house mates or not) for my point. You too are a porn star. I dont for one minute think that what the girls are doing is more gross than what your doing. YOUR ALL GROSS. lmao! Full disclosure, I have been with my husband now for 16 yrs. I met him when I was 17. Before him, I had 5 partners. He had 10. He was 19. I started at 15. He was 12. He has been the only man I have had sex with in 16 yrs. Wanna know why. He has rocked my world from the first time we had sex (which was 3 months later, after he went to Mexico on Spring Break. I wasnt fucking him & then asking him to be faithful there.) And every time since. All through lust, love, marriage, babies, heart break, despair, betrayal (there are so many forms), depression and angain back to love. Through it all, he is my physical other half. But we would never have turned into that, if we didnt decide to give each other more than a night.
    So again my question is, how are you going to find that wife?

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  137. And one last question: How good can all that sex be, if urhiding under those small sheets. How fun can that be?

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  138. You're just making the world more stupid. Believe it or not, most guys don't just think with their penis. At least the ones who are worthwhile. (By the way, there's this thing called masturbation, if you really need that 5 minutes of bliss. Lot easier than picking up girls at a bar) If you were really feminist, you would treat both guys and girls equally, and treat different types of girls equally. You can't call one girl golden and another a grenade.

    Also, what the fuck do you care what I did with who? Are you that insecure? I will sleep with whoever I want whenever I want if I damn well choose to. Not to say I'd do it often, I would only with someone I care about and trust.

    This is only perpetuating the double standard that girls are worth more when they're done less. And it's not even that they have more sex. Any girl who has slept with any guy, be it 1 or 1000 can be called a slut. Virgins get called sluts. Girls who only kiss but no sex are called sluts. Slut is nothing more than a way to demoralize women so that male (and female-yes girls, you are not helping by calling other girls sluts or whores when they talk to a guy you like or something else) to feel good about themselves. It's no different than calling a girl fat or a guy an ugly.

    So you want a girl with a low number of partners? Maybe she wants the same thing. You've slept with so many girls, maybe I should assume you have no self-respect either, or no morals. No, instead of judging you on your sex-life I'm going to judge you on being a sexist, ignorant prick. But life isn't all bad, you're decent looking so you might find a few more girls before you fizzle out. So enjoy that!

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  139. were u high when u wrote this?? lol ...yessss

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  140. haha I happened to stumble across this post and found it entertaining.

    ....I compliment you on the way you are handling a ridiculous topic in such a way that is both humorous yet insulting, although...it was a well articulated article and an enjoyable read. Many women, I am sure will be outraged.

    To some extend... I agree with the above comment but I am not as offended.




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  142. Many guild wars 2 gold comedians have spoken about how the female tunnel of love is known to be "pretty" and penises are not. In order for a woman to "get off" she needs all sorts of mechanisms, tongue rotations, speed and penetration levels, candle scents, etc..gw2 gold .But for a man, a few simple strokes and he experiences 5 seconds of bliss. Men also have more testosterone in their system which increases the eagerness to fornicate while women are more able to practice self control.

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